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Comfortable in Suffering

Are you comfortable in your suffering? Do you prefer the familiarity of your struggle?

You're probably thinking, "who the hell is comfortable with suffering or would prefer to struggle? That's balderdash!" and let me tell you I agree. I don't understand it myself, but people choose that every single day. I've chosen it. There's a 99.9999999% chance that you've also chosen it.

Yes, I'm saying that you have or currently are choosing to remain comfortable in your struggle.

Let me get a little clearer on what I mean by this...

We all have things that we don't like about ourselves-

too fat

too thin

get winded too easily

feel bloated all of the time

never have enough energy

feeling foggy brained a lot of the time

We all have things we do consistently that we don't like-

our job

always being in debt

drinking too much

saying yes to everything and getting overwhelmed

people pleasing

always running late

never having enough money

We choose these things daily.

Hear me out.

Sometimes we are really unhappy with things, but rather than take action to change them we accept our "lot in life" and get comfortable in our struggle.


You're overweight, get out of breath easily, and have a hard time getting out of chairs and you absolutely hate it. You're unhappy and frustrated so you have a pity party in front of the TV while you eat some comfort food. Doing that temporarily makes you feel better because the show you're watching is funny and it's taking your mind off of everything and the food is super tasty so there's no way you're gonna let it go to waste.

Put that on repeat.

You. Are. Choosing. To. Be. Unhappy.

We cling to what we are used to. We cling to what we know. Because sometimes what we don't know is scary. Sometimes it seems too overwhelming to try to make changes.

Do you really want to live your whole life clinging to your struggles just because they are familiar to you?

I urge you to step outside of your comfort zone and face the newness and the unknown. I challenge you to take on a new kind of difficulty because on the other side you will find a new version of you that is happier and healthier.

Change comes through taking small steps consistently towards your new way of being. You don't have to change everything at once. In fact trying to change too much too fast is what typically causes people to fail in the first place. Small changes may make it seem like you're not getting anywhere, but that's where time comes in. That's where the mental changes come in. Allow yourself the time.

When you choose to address your issues rather than ignore or bury them that's the first mental shift.

  • When you choose to watch only 1 or 2 episodes of a show instead of binge watching a season-that's a change.

  • When you choose to be mindful of how much you're eating instead of just stuffing your face until you can't possibly fit anything else in-that's a change.

  • When you choose to make a meal at home instead of buying fast food-that's a change.

  • When you admit to yourself that you need help and seek out someone who can fill that need for you-that's a change.

Don't stay where you are because you're afraid of what you don't know, feel clueless on how to start, or because it just seems too big.

Don't stay where you are now because the struggle is comfortable, you know it, and you can handle it.

You deserve to be happy.

Take that first step.

If you want to change your lifestyle to a healthier way of being, but you're not sure how to go about it please reach out. Together we can find what will work for YOU and your specific needs.

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